In everyday life, psychopaths are people with an explosive temperament or simply eccentric. But in the strictest sense, psychopathy is a personality disorder. And according to statistics, most psychopaths are men.
They can be extremely charming, courteous and sociable in the first place, but long-term relationships with them are very toxic for their partners.
How can we understand that we are dealing with a psychopath and not just a person with a complex character? Of course, only a specialist can make a diagnosis, but here are some warning signs you should pay attention to.
1. He looks down on you
A psychopath directly or indirectly emphasizes his superiority over a partner who allegedly does not reach his level: “You are stupid and uneducated,” “You are too emotional,” “You are fat and complex.”
Next to a psychopathic personality, the partner feels like a “junior in rank,” worthless and unworthy, whose task is to please and appease his idol.
2. His declarations of love quickly give way to indifference.
He can look after you beautifully, and your honeymoon will be so romantic... But pretty quickly he cools down and begins to treat you with disdain. Relationships with a psychopath are like a roller coaster: he either loves or hates, quarrels alternate with stormy reconciliations. Disrespect quickly escalates into insults.
For his victim, this situation is truly traumatic and is fraught with depression, neuroses, drug or alcohol abuse. And in any case - post-traumatic syndrome.
3. He doesn't know how to admit his own guilt.
He is never responsible for what is happening and for his actions - others are always to blame. Even when his guilt is obvious, he cleverly distorts and presents what happened as an involuntary mistake or a joke. Or he claims that he was misunderstood. Or that the partner is simply too sensitive. In short, he does everything to minimize his responsibility.
4. He uses manipulation to win you over.
For a psychopath, courtship is just a game or sport: he seduces with the help of manipulative tricks in which there is neither warmth nor sincerity. Kindness, attention, care, gifts, travel - for him only a means to get what he wants. He expects that later, when the candy-bouquet period is over, the partner will pay for all this with obedience.
5. One partner is not enough for him.
A psychopath does not know how to build close, sincere relationships; he quickly gets fed up and sets off in search of new adventures. This does not mean that he will immediately abandon the annoying victim - such people know how to combine several novels at once.
6. He reacts aggressively to any criticism.
Outwardly, he gives the impression of a domineering, narcissistic and soulless person who does not care about the experiences of others. But how sharply and with what aggression he reacts when he is criticized, questioned or neglected!
The reason is not that he is insecure or needs the approval of others. No, the whole point is that he believes in his superiority and power over others. And therefore he cannot stand it if someone points out his weaknesses or communicates “wrongly” with him.
7. It’s important for him to feel like a winner in everything.
In his view, the world is divided into winners and losers. And for him it is very important to be among the first in everything, even in small things. This attitude is incompatible with healthy relationships, which involve cooperation, compromise and the ability to repent.
8. You lose your ability to reason rationally when you're around him.
With a long enough relationship, the partner of a psychopath begins to experience cognitive impairment: he may have problems with memory, concentration, attention, motivation and self-organization. He becomes distracted, less effective, and overwhelmed by anxiety.
9. He craves to dominate
A psychopath likes to humiliate, control and devalue others - this is how he asserts his power over you. But he cannot stand it if they try to point out his behavior to him, and he flies into a rage. Moreover, he tries to take revenge on the “offender”.
10. He often hides the truth
This is another manifestation of his penchant for manipulation. He can just keep silent about something or lie to your face. Moreover, lies can concern both minor trifles and very important things - a child on the side, a permanent partner, or marital status.
11. He has no moral principles
A psychopath disdains social norms and moral rules and easily oversteps them. Scams of all kinds, theft, harassment, intimidation, vindictiveness towards those who stand in his way - all means are good for him.
12. He is incapable of deep feelings
With a superficial acquaintance, he can charm and demonstrate sympathy, which he is not really capable of. When interacting with a stranger, a psychopath can perform much better than he is used to behaving with a partner - especially if he needs to give the impression of a strong person or arouse envy.
13. He declares himself a victim
This is a typical form of manipulation when psychopaths communicate with an ordinary person who has empathy. They use our capacity for empathy and compassion by portraying themselves as unfortunate victims - and receive forgiveness for any sins. This allows them to avoid blame and responsibility and achieve their goals.
14. Kindness and respect are alien to him
They do not have a developed sense of empathy, so the partner is forced to re-explain to him every time how to treat other people humanly and what he expects in relation to himself: “Don’t talk to me like that! Please stop lying! Why are you so cruel and rude to me?
15. You feel like you'll never be good enough.
A psychopath is inclined every now and then to accuse, criticize and thereby belittle his partner: “You dressed like a prostitute! You didn't clean the house well! You've gone so crazy! Don't say a word to you! Just think how vulnerable she is! How annoying this is! He interprets any requests or demands from his partner as attempts to control him and perceives them with hostility.
A psychopath is always a psychopath. This person suffers from his specific character traits not only himself, but also the people who surround him. It’s okay when a person with a mental illness sits next to you at work, but he can change jobs or get a promotion. And if you have connected your life with a psychopath, then you will either have to “sip grief”, or you will learn to adapt to him, perceive this person as he is, constantly guess the “sharp corners” and skillfully get around them.
One way or another, you need to take off your rose-colored glasses in advance so as not to repent for the rest of your life. How do mental disorders manifest themselves in men and women, what are the signs of a psychopath and how to recognize them in time?
Causes of psychopathy
The causes of mental disorders are not fully understood. Some scientists believe that mental disorder creates an unfavorable environment. Some argue that the personality traits that create psychopathy are genetically determined. There is also an opinion that the basis of psychopathy is an organic, unrecognized disease of the brain.
Features of psychopathy in women and men
Psychopathy is characterized by:
Types of psychopathy
Externally, psychopathy manifests itself in a variety of symptoms. Taking into account the prevailing factors in behavior, the following types of psychopathy are distinguished:
These are the main types of psychopathy. However, in real life they are often mixed, that is, various traits are expressed in the character of psychopaths. It is often difficult for a doctor to understand this variety of options. As for attempts to independently diagnose psychopathy, they are doomed to failure, since it is almost impossible for a person without special psychiatric education to draw a clear line between psychopathy and the specific character of a healthy person.
Psychopathy: signs in men
Psychopathy has differences that prevent it from being confused with mental illness. This is bigger antisocial personality disorder, which creates significant obstacles to adaptation in society. These characteristic anomalies, which are congenital, are completely fixed in adolescence; subsequently, it is almost impossible to make global changes, but some adjustment is permissible. The peculiarity is that symptoms of psychopathy appear more often in men than in women.
In addition, many male psychopaths are not the criminals that many believe. On the contrary, sometimes they are successful businessmen, occupy high management positions, or are considered excellent specialists in a certain type of activity. Psychopathic men know how to earn money, often have high intelligence, and are distinguished by good manners. The problem with psychopaths is that there are no higher moral feelings in their personality structure. Such as conscience, compassion, shame. These men do not experience affection, sympathy, for psychopaths there is no concept of remorse and honesty.
Symptoms of psychopathy in men
Almost all the feelings of men are psychopaths depict, but in reality they are not experienced in life. These people can well be called hypocrites and pretenders. They can successfully study psychology, only to manipulate other people for self-interest. Due to this immorality, emotional chaos is always present in the personal lives of these men. They cause anxiety and suffering to their colleagues at work and their loved ones.
Women who have entered into personal relationships with psychopathic men who have managed to adapt socially suffer the most. As a rule, relationships with these men entail severe psychological trauma. The cause of these injuries is the abuse of a woman’s trust. Including countless betrayals, humiliation of women as individuals. In addition, among male psychopaths there are actually many individuals who have problems with the law. By entering into a relationship with this man, a woman is at risk of physical and sexual violence.
Symptoms of psychopathy in men:
Family relationship between a woman and a psychopathic man
Toxic relationships These are the relationships when we feel more suffering than pleasure, when we give more than we receive. Often, toxic relationships turn into dependence, so one person in the relationship is given the false impression that he cannot live without the other person.
Often people who are in toxic relationships have many fears in their subconscious, feelings of resentment that stem from childhood experiences or traumatic experiences with previous partners.
If you decide complete toxic relationship, then to take specific steps you need to determine a very short period of time, for example, a month. If you decide to find out an objective analysis of your difficult situation in a relationship, then it is best to take the help of friends and write down on paper the balance of your well-being and emotions that give rise to a relationship with your partner.
If you have decided to break up, then you need to provide for yourself support from friends, some hobby, activity, intense exercise that will allow you to take your mind off a difficult period. You can also seek help from a psychologist, he can help you restore your peace of mind.
How does a psychopathic man gain trust from a woman despite so many flaws? Most often, this personality acts like a magnet, easily captivates, intensely “hypnotizes with his gaze,” since due to the absence of a feeling of fear, he can maintain eye contact longer, and this is perceived as a social context. A psychopathic man uses manipulation techniques to convince a woman of his desire to help and his kindness.
Often the mechanism of attachment appears through sex. Since a woman actively produces a lot of oxytocin– a hormone that is responsible for establishing trust. A man can clearly guess a woman’s emotional needs and, through sexual experience, create a strong bond with her. The psychopath “reveals his cards” very slowly so as not to scare away the victim. After a while, the woman notices that the man is far from the ideal image that has formed in her head, but in some cases it is already difficult to get out of destructive relationships.
Which women associate themselves with psychopathic men?
As a rule, these are women who, when meeting this man, are in a special situation in life, for example, after an emotional crisis, divorce, they want change. This is most often situational weakness However, a psychopath can skillfully use it for his own benefit.
It is wrong to think that a man with a mental disorder chooses depressed or dysfunctional women. A psychopath wants to gain power over a woman who is open, emotionally stable, tolerant, extroverted, loyal, intelligent, has high moral standards and a high tolerance for disappointment, allows some unpredictability in her life, and has a certain social status. And here, surprisingly, the myth that opposites attract is confirmed.
A psychopath is common smart man, sophisticated and cunning, who, with the help of various “tricks,” uses a woman’s gullibility, destroying her.
How to get out of a toxic relationship with a psychopathic man?
In order not to get stuck in this relationship, a woman needs to understand the dynamics of the development of the connection and the mechanism of bonding with a psychopath, which stem not from her indecision, but are the result of a man’s ability to effectively manipulate.
In these situations, of course, it is necessary therapy. Naturally, often the “criminal” does not directly take part in it, but only the woman. The help of a psychologist helps her to believe in herself, restore her self-esteem and respect. Every woman can be a victim of a psychopathic man, regardless of social status, age, profession or education. The main thing is to restore emotional stability and take care of yourself after a breakup. Psychotherapy is the only true path.
Men come to see me, exhausted by relationships with hysterical wives, and women exhausted by psychopathic husbands. My clients are wonderful people: kind, gentle, caring, sympathetic, responsible, etc. In communicating with them, I involuntarily had a question: “Where do you find them, where do you get them from?”
I set out in search of an answer and discovered that the number of psychopaths in modern society is growing.
8 reasons are obvious:
1. Watching cartoons with scenes of violence and deviant behavior. A child under 7 years of age does not have critical thinking skills; he perceives behavior patterns as acceptable in his life and imitates his favorite characters.2. Teenagers' interest in computer games with violence, cruelty and murder. The law of feelings states that even in a fictitious (virtual) situation, a person experiences real bodily feelings. A teenager, playing violent games, regularly trains in aggressive behavior, he will be prone to violence and cruelty.
3. Lack of a healthy home climate. Children grow up imitating others, which is how parents pass on psychopathic behavior patterns to them.
4. Lack of quality relationships in the family. In close, sincere and trusting relationships, there are no psychological problems in a person’s life. The basis of the psychological problem is a violation of interpersonal communication.
5. Social environment that shapes malignant courage. In a certain society, vulnerability, vulnerability, and the need for close and sincere relationships are considered weaknesses. Character traits such as attentiveness, kindness and caring are condemned.
6. Mass fatherlessness. A study led by Gabriella Gobbi at Canada's McGill University suggests that growing up without a father leads to increased aggression and abnormal ways of interacting with others.
Fatherlessness is not only the complete absence of a father, when a mother raises a child alone, but also a “dead” father. In fact, a dad can even live in the same apartment with his children, but at the same time be removed from upbringing and not participate in the lives of his children (alcoholics, drug addicts, workaholics, and even dads who are so carried away by sorting out the relationship with their spouse that they forget about the children) .
On the other hand, a child may not have a physical father, but a grandfather, uncle or older brother takes care of him, giving the baby a masculine upbringing and models of healthy behavior.
7. The inability to create your own results in life leads to an unmet need for power. Failure to understand your needs and ignorance of socially acceptable ways to satisfy them leads to catastrophic consequences.
8. Ignorance of the signs of psychopathy leads to the fact that people easily enter into love and marriage relationships with a psychopath. These relationships produce children who adopt abusive behavior patterns. So statistics say that on average a psychologically healthy man has two children, and a psychopathic man has four children in the general population.
What to do? First, be able to recognize psychopathic behavior in “nice” people.
Psychopathic personality traits:
1. Impulsiveness.Impulsiveness is considered to be an instant, thoughtless action. But that's not true. Psychopathy is not a disease or a dysfunction of the cerebral cortex. Psychopathy is a chosen model of behavior that allows you to get what you want no matter what and in spite of everything.
Here, by impulsiveness I mean the absence of fear of the consequences of one’s actions and the absence of internal restrictions on immoral and criminal behavior.
2. Aggressiveness.
Violent behavior intended to harm someone or something. If a child tortures animals, mocks insects, hurts those who are weaker or helpless; breaks, damages and sets objects on fire, then urgently take measures to correct behavior.
A psychopath takes pleasure in seeing another person suffer and takes every opportunity to cause pain or harm.
3. Ruthlessness.
Psychopaths lack empathy; they are unable to put themselves in another person’s shoes and show compassion.
4. Dishonesty.
Psychopaths always lie. It’s easy to get so confused in the web of their stories that you stop understanding where the truth is and where the fiction is. Don’t try to figure it out, most likely there is no truth at all (no matter how realistic the story may look).
5. Self-centeredness.
Characteristic of the thinking of an 8-10 year old child. If the personality does not develop, then the person remains “stuck” at this age, not understanding that the people around him have their own feelings, desires and needs.
6. Inability to care for others.
Every normally developing child at 6-7 years old develops a need to take care of others. He strives to take care of his mother, father or grandmother, asks to give birth to a brother or sister, buy a dog or a cat. Parents do not always recognize this need and support its development.
Cruel or indifferent treatment of a child in the family leads to the fact that this need is not formed or is lost. In modern society, aimed at material success and commodity-money relations, people cease to feel like individuals, and more often perceive themselves and those around them as a means or tool to achieve certain goals.
7. Failure to comply with established agreements.
The life principle of a psychopath: either my way or not at all.
8. Passionate desire for thrills and risks.
Psychopaths use situations to feel like they are on the razor's edge or the crest of a wave. Hysteria, scandal, the ability to unbalance a loved one or drive him crazy gives them a feeling of omnipotence and superiority over the victim.
9. Disrespect for other people's work, values, personality and human life.
A psychopath easily spoils other people's property, solves his problems at the expense and to the detriment of others, and does not value relationships, health or the lives of loved ones.
10. As a rule, a psychopath has poor relationships with family, colleagues, and has no real friends.
Secondly, understand that psychopathy is not a disease!
A psychopath has strong mental health and achieves his goals by any means, including the physical destruction (murder) of a loved one. To do this, he is capable not only of spontaneous hysterical behavior, blackmail and manipulation, but also of well-thought-out schemes to destroy barriers to what he wants.
Thirdly, psychopathy is a way to satisfy the need for power. The psychopath, torturing and tormenting the victim, experiences great pleasure from his superiority. Control over a weak partner gives a feeling of importance, even omnipotence. For the manifestation of psychopathic behavior, confidence in one’s own safety and impunity is important.
Conclusion:
1. If you find yourself in a relationship with a psychopath, break off the relationship as quickly as possible. You cannot treat his behavior condescendingly or philosophically; indulging and resisting a psychopath can end in disaster.Your desire to protect yourself by involving third parties (parents, friends, police) will turn out to be the other side of the coin: the psychopath will build a situational plan in which you will be to blame (incited, provoked an “innocent person” to harm you).
2. If you are still choosing a life partner, be vigilant and don’t let money, attractive appearance or wonderful sex blind you.
3. If you have seen in yourself the traits of a psychopathic personality and want to live in love, harmony, mutual understanding, then you can change your behavior! Psychopathy is not a sentence, it is a lifestyle.
It is often quite difficult to understand that a person really is a psychopath. This is usually the name given to people who have antisocial or narcissistic disorders and are prone to hysterics. This is especially difficult to understand for those women whose husbands are such. Not only he himself suffers from the abnormal behavior of a psychopath, but also everyone who surrounds him. It’s not so scary if such a person is a work colleague. The situation is much more complicated if the woman married a real psychopath. In this case, she will have to experience a lot of grief or learn to adapt to this person, accept him as he is, constantly anticipate his hysterics and try to get around them. Psychologists advise such women to take off their rose-colored glasses as soon as possible and really look at possible prospects, so as not to suffer for the rest of their lives.
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- the child was raised in an orphanage or an adult committed a crime and went to prison;
- bad ecology;
- heredity: if one of the parents suffers from psychopathy, there is a high risk that the children will also suffer from it;
- infectious diseases (meningitis, encephalitis), brain tumor, mechanical head injuries;
- poisoning with alcohol, poison or drugs, radiation.
- 1. Lack of restraint, inability to adapt in society, a tendency to quarrel with family and colleagues, based only on one’s own suggestion, a tendency to exaggerate and embellish situations.
- 2. Complete indifference to the feelings of even the closest people, frequent manifestations of aggression and violence for one’s own benefit and disregard for generally accepted moral norms.
- 3. Lack of feelings of guilt and analysis of committed offenses.
- 4. Selfishness - for a psychopath it is important to always be the center of attention. He is distinguished by a strong desire to be a leader.
- 5. Cowardice and betrayal. If a psychopath has not completed any important task, he will quickly get off with a scandal.
- 6. Inability to establish social connections and lack of long-term friendships, as well as long-term love affairs.
- 7. Insomnia.
- 8. Grudge.
- 9. Constant change of activities and thinking patterns, many unfinished tasks.
- 10. Tendency to lie and accuse the interlocutor of lying, even in minor conflicts.
- 11. Sharp outbursts of rage, jealousy for no reason.
- 12. Tendency to sexual perversion.
- 13. Constant change of character masks and obvious play on the feelings of loved ones.
- 14. Non-standard thinking and lack of understanding of danger, love of extreme sports.
- 1. A paranoid husband is characterized by a tendency to conflict, selfishness and activity in defending his own interests. If he is interested in something, it is important for everyone, and if someone is not interested in it, this person becomes enemy number one for him. Living with such a husband is extremely difficult. You need to regularly praise him and put all your interests on the altar of his priceless ideas. There will always be many people around him with whom he forbids his wife to communicate (mother-in-law, relatives). A paranoid person demands that children be raised in their own way: he forces them to wake them up early, take them to a music school or sports section, and forbids them to communicate with their peers. It is important to remember that such a man is very jealous; he sees in every man a potential lover of his wife. Most women cannot stand such a life and decide to break up with a paranoid man. But this does not save them from problems: from that moment on, the woman becomes an enemy for him and he begins to take revenge on her (does not allow her to see the child, deprives him of money or housing).
- 2. The sociopathic husband suffers from dissocial personality disorder. He is distinguished by immoral behavior and an unwillingness to limit himself in any way. Characteristic personality traits of a sociopath: restlessness, stubbornness, deceit and impulsiveness. Such a man is constantly looking for conflicts, thrills, gets involved in various adventures and is prone to violence. Most sociopaths use drugs, gamble, and drink alcohol, and end up in prison as a result. Girls are known to love “bad boys,” so sociopathic men are rarely single. Just don’t have high hopes that such a husband will change and turn into a wonderful family man. And if a woman does not want to constantly worry or wait for him to leave prison, she should break off such a relationship and find herself a decent man.
- 3. The hysterical husband is trying with all his might to attract attention to himself. He is always nicely dressed and constantly takes care of himself. During his school years, he actively participates in public life: he plays in plays, in KVN, sings and dances. Such a man is distinguished by his theatrical behavior and the desire to please all women. The wife of a hysteroid must be ready to constantly admire her husband and come to terms with the fact that he will seek the admiration of other people. It is impossible to come to an agreement with him in solving any serious problems, as he will blackmail and begin to demonstrate his attempts at suicide.
- 4. A schizoid husband has difficulty communicating. He doesn’t care at all about other people’s opinions, he is emotionally cold and often doesn’t even understand what he can talk about with women. A schizoid man is not friends with anyone, at most he has only one friend. Some women agree to marry such men. Due to the inability to establish contact with the opposite sex, a schizoid husband will not cheat on his wife. He is also not interested in meeting friends, going to the sauna, sports clubs or fishing. His lifelong hobbies include reading or collecting. It would seem that everything is not so bad, but the wife should not hope for the support of a schizoid in matters of housekeeping, empathy, and even joint leisure time. Such a man lives in his own world and does not want to understand the feelings of other people. Any communication simply bothers him. A woman must understand that she will have to exist with her schizoid husband in different worlds.
- 5. An asthenic husband suffers from dependent personality disorder. He is characterized by indecision and self-sacrifice. Excessive diligence is accompanied by low performance. An asthenic person tries with all his might to avoid physical and psychological stress. Such a man is highly dependent on women, who have to make all decisions on their own. An asthenic husband does not need a soul mate, but a mother who will do everything for him. He is able to give his wife love and mutual understanding, he will idealize her and obey her unquestioningly. Asthenics do not cheat on their wives. If a woman needs a henpecked husband, then a man with dependent personality disorder is an ideal option. Just don’t hope that he will ever become the head of the family.
- 1. In case of any psychological attacks from your husband, start keeping a distance from him: pretend to be very busy.
- 2. When ending a relationship, you should be especially careful, since a sudden breakup can provoke a fit of rage in a psychopath, which often ends in violence. The ideal solution is to call your husband or write him an email.
- 3. You need to tell your family and friends about this so that they are aware of the problem. It's good if they are nearby all the time. You need to create a support group for yourself.
- 4. You should not blame yourself, because this is not just leaving a person, but also saving yourself and your loved ones from danger. Psychopaths have a strong charm and always know what they want: to subjugate their wife completely and completely by all deceptive means.
- 5. You need to trust your intuition and listen to your fear, because this is a defensive reaction that can save a person from any threat. Pay attention to whether these relationships cause a feeling of constant risk. It is important to remember that any healthy relationship never causes feelings of fear and there is no need to argue with your own mind.
- 6. Try to be skeptical about the behavior of a psychopathic husband: his lies and manipulation of loved ones. Don't believe anything you hear or see. It would be a good idea to check the source of the information received from him to analyze its reliability. This can be done with the help of friends or the Internet. Psychopaths lie constantly without any shame.
- conducting auto-training and hypnosis;
- use of psychotropic drugs;
- taking antidepressants (Prozac) and tranquilizers;
- neuroleptics (Aminazine) for the treatment of hysterical psychopathy;
- haloperidol to suppress aggression and anger;
- for insomnia, antipsychotics with a sedative effect (chlorprothixene) are prescribed;
- antisocial psychopaths are prescribed Sonapax and Neuleptil;
- for asthenics - stimulants or natural remedies.
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What is psychopathy
Psychopathy refers to a characterological pathology that is not characteristic of a mentally healthy person. The behavior of a psychopath does not correspond to generally accepted human norms. Such a person has his own style of behavior and way of thinking. He completely lacks sympathy, selflessness, pity and empathy. If a psychopath has good intelligence, then he is able to perfectly imitate high feelings, manipulating his loved ones for his own benefit.
A healthy psyche is one of the most important conditions for the happy existence of both the person himself and the people around him. If it is quite possible to fight various complexes, character traits and psychological traumas, then special attention should be paid to the symptoms of psychopathy. Such a husband is often not only very unpleasant in communication, but also socially dangerous.
Causes of psychopathy
It is impossible to determine the main cause of psychopathy in men, since to date it has not been fully studied. In fact, this pathology is multifactorial, but there is always an initial factor that affects character traits more than others. Its main features or their pathology are laid down in genes, as well as skin color, eye shape, etc. And despite the fact that every person changes throughout his life, most character traits are laid down at the stage of intrauterine existence.
The main causes of psychopathy are congenital and each person is born with his own character or its pathology. A significant role here is given to certain negative situations that contribute to an individual’s antisocial behavior:
All this contributes to the appearance of pathological and absolutely irreversible changes in the cerebral cortex and the entire nervous system.
Psychopathy occurs due to the excessive development of specific human character traits and the underdevelopment of other, no less important ones. A man may have highly developed egocentrism, aggression and absolutely no control over his behavior and empathy. This pathology begins to develop at an early age and accompanies the individual until the end of life. In most cases, a person is not able to cope with this condition on his own and needs the help of a specialist.
According to statistics, psychopathy is more common in men than in women. Moreover, such a person can be quite successful and occupy a high position. But this is rare, and most psychopaths are antisocial individuals. Education and environment are important for the emergence of psychopathy.
Signs
There are certain behavioral signs that can help identify a psychopath. Failure to accept general rules of conduct for such people is the standard. They completely lack the ability to make friends and establish communication. Psychopaths are distinguished by the following character traits:
Psychopaths often have attractive appearance, charm and great intellectual abilities.
Psychologists do not have an exact answer to the question: is psychopathy a pathology or is it just a character trait. Most likely, this is the border between a healthy and painful state of mind. Psychopaths are not distinguished by weak minds and are quickly realized professionally. Their tactics of behavior in society are thought out to the smallest detail, so it is very difficult to recognize a psychopathic man in a short conversation. A woman who marries such a man sees his real face too late. This is a domestic tyrant, and violence against his family is a norm for him that cannot be eradicated.
How to behave as a woman with a psychopathic husband
Playing on his wife's feelings is the norm for a psychopath. Breaking off relations with such a person is not easy: he always beautifully asks for forgiveness, looking straight into the eyes, like a good actor, or begins to threaten. Looking closely at his frightened wife is a real pleasure for him. It is important to remember that in tense moments you should not cry or make excuses, much less insult your psychopathic husband. A woman needs to understand how to behave with such a husband, depending on what type of psychopath he is:
A psychopathic husband makes everyone around him suffer - his wife, children and relatives. Making the decision to get rid of this unhealthy relationship should be final. Otherwise, the woman will get even more in case of new scandals: the psychopath will try to take revenge, attack with even greater bitterness, inflict psychological trauma on his wife and children, thereby increasing his self-esteem.
Breaking off a relationship with a psychopathic husband is the most reasonable decision, no matter how cruel it may seem. This should be taken as a minimal loss. After all, a psychopath achieves his goal only when he emotionally destroys his victim. Therefore, you need to learn how to behave correctly with him:
You must always be on guard, as a psychopathic husband has a constant need to control others. In family life, he wants to be in charge and for this he uses his charm, intimidation and even violence. In a power race, the psychopath focuses on winning, no matter the cost. You should be prepared to fight for your rights and risk serious psychological and physical harm. In such a situation, you should not come into contact with him, but come up with another method to make him understand that no one wants to play by his rules. It is necessary to make it clear to the husband that his behavior entails certain consequences.
Treatment
To establish a diagnosis of psychopathy, electroencephalography - a study of brain activity - is used and tests are carried out. The disease requires treatment only when the pathological features are strongly manifested, which poses a threat to the lives of not only the patient’s relatives, but also for himself.
Today, treatment for psychopathy includes:
For any form of pathology, immunomodulators, antioxidants and multivitamins are additionally prescribed. It should be remembered that when using psychotropic drugs, patients are strictly prohibited from using alcohol and drugs to avoid death. Treatment should be selected only by a specialist, taking into account the form of pathology and the individual characteristics of each patient.
It is necessary to stock up on great patience in order to be able to protect yourself and your loved ones, because life with such a person requires a constant search for compromises. Fighting a psychopath and his beliefs will not do anything good. It is important to avoid such situations at all costs, and if this is not possible, simply ignore it.
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I looked at my husband in fascination, and he did not take his admiring eyes off his mistress. He acted like a lovesick idiot...
One percent of the entire world population are psychopaths. A psychopath is not the kind of person who is waiting for you with a prison in a dark entrance. This is not a serial killer or an inmate of a mental hospital. This could be your colleague who gets away with any tricks at work. Someone's "perfect" ex who suddenly ran away with someone else one day. Or a completely ordinary guy who made you coffee in the morning.
There is only one difference between a normal person and a psychopath - psychopaths have no conscience. They hurt and do not feel the slightest sense of remorse or guilt. They are able to imitate normal human emotions, but do not actually experience them. Compassion, love, trust, forgiveness - these emotions make you vulnerable, and psychopaths only use them to influence you.
Any outside observer will not be able to identify a psychopath. They are often nice, friendly and charming people. But if you get close to such a person, then life turns into a nightmare. Fairy-tale relationships mutate into a mess of cruel mind games. Does this sound familiar to you? Here are 10 warning signs that you might be dating a psychopath. Data compiled from real stories and surveys on Psychopath Free.
1. He surrounds you with declarations of love and compliments. Do you think this is the perfect partner for you?
When you first meet a psychopath, things move quickly. He convinces you that you have a lot in common, that you are perfect for each other. Like a chameleon, it reflects your hopes, dreams, fears to form a trusting and exciting relationship. He constantly wants to communicate with you and seems completely fascinated by you. Your wall on Facebook or VKontakte will be littered with songs, compliments, poems and cute jokes that only you two can understand.
2. He preys on your emotions by telling pity stories.
You will quickly find a place in your heart to feel sorry for him. After all, he is so sweet and innocent. Completely different from the movie images of psychopaths - cruel men with a contemptuous smile in an expensive car. Surely he will mention his ex, who is still in love with him. But all he wants is peace and quiet, he hates drama. However, you will soon notice that dramatic stories constantly surround him and the people close to him.
3. He involves you in a love triangle.
Once you are hooked, you will end up in a love triangle and even a polygon. The psychopath will surround himself with former and potential lovers and anyone who pays attention to him. There will also be exes that he told you about before and assured you that you are superior to them in everything. You will feel embarrassed, and you will get the impression that he is always in demand with the opposite sex.
4. He constantly distorts reality and behaves abnormally.
A psychopath always denies that he is manipulating you and ignores even actual evidence of this. He reacts critically and dismissively if you try to refute his tales with facts. He will shift the blame for the situation onto you: you are too impressionable and do not perceive the situation adequately. He will convince you that the problem is not with him, but with your incorrect reaction to normal events.
5. He blames you for the emotions he provokes.
The psychopath will say that you are too jealous, although he openly flirted with his ex, often even on social networks, so that everyone could see it. He will say that you are too clingy, even though he deliberately ignored you for several days. He provokes your reaction to show his other targets how hysterical you are and to gain sympathy for himself. Did you think you were a calm person? Meeting a psychopath will change you beyond recognition. Fortunately, it's temporary.
6. You notice pathological lies and excuses.
He always has an excuse, even in situations where one is not required. He comes up with another lie faster than you can ask a question. He constantly blames others, but he himself always has nothing to do with it. He spends time coming up with explanations for his behavior rather than improving it. Even when caught, he shows no remorse or embarrassment. Sometimes it seems like he wanted you to catch him.
7. He provokes jealousy and rivalry while maintaining a mask of innocence.
At first, the psychopath's entire attention is focused on you. And you don't understand what happens when he suddenly switches to another person. He constantly does things that make you doubt that you mean anything to him. If he is active on social networks, he lures exes with songs, photographs, and jokes that were meaningful to their couple. He seems to be actively looking for a partner and at the same time ignores you.
8. It holds your attention and undermines your self-esteem.
First, he showers you with a knock-down stream of admiration, and then you become uninteresting to him. You are offended, because you are already fired up by these passionate feelings. And now you feel like a housekeeper with him and nothing more.
9. A psychopath is selfish and demands constant attention.
It sucked all the energy out of you and filled your entire life. He demands constant self-worship. You thought that you were the only person who could make him happy, but now you understand that anyone with a beating pulse would be suitable for this role. But the truth is that no one can fill the emptiness in the soul of a psychopath.
10. You don't recognize yourself
Your love and compassion has turned into overwhelming panic and anxiety. You apologize and cry more than you ever have in your life. You sleep poorly and wake up in a bad and anxious mood. You can’t understand what happened to you, where is this cheerful, laid-back, calm person now? After communicating with a psychopath, you feel exhausted, empty and deprived of an adequate perception of the world. Life is going topsy-turvy: you spend money, break ties with friends and family, and are constantly looking for the reason for these actions.
A relationship with a psychopath is a black hole. No matter how much it hurts you, you will always be to blame for everything. He ignores your best qualities, and self-doubt grows in you, you change beyond recognition. It will take you a long time to heal the trauma from this relationship; it will seem to you that everything will never be fine with you.
But you can calm your nerves. First of all, exclude all contacts with a psychopath: correspondence, letters, and even “spying” on him on social networks. At first it will be unbearably difficult for you, but with time relief will come. You will feel that sanity is returning to you and chaos is leaving your life. This experience may even be useful in the long run. You will learn to value yourself and set boundaries for psychopaths so that they never disturb your peace again.
